Obituaries September 11


Jessie Margaret (Daisy) Burke

Jessie Margaret (Daisy) Burke was found dead in her home at 36 Payne Ave., North Haven, on Sunday, August 31, 2008. She had celebrated her 100th birthday on August 7.

Mrs. Burke was born in New York City on August 7, 1908 to Jane Brown McLaren of Perth, Scotland, and Alexander MacLean of Inverness-shire, Scotland. Mrs. Burke’s mother died four years later, and she and her infant brother, Duncan, were escorted to Inverness-shire, where she was raised by her grandparents, Duncan and Jessie Chisholm MacLean, on their sheep farm at Old Town of Aigas, Beauly, Scotland. She attended Eskadale School in Eskadale from 1913 to 1917, at which time she transferred to St. Mary’s School for Young Ladies in Elgin. She spoke frequently and lovingly of her grandparents and her life in Scotland as this period was always one of her happiest memories.

She returned to America on the Cameronia II in July of 1923 to live with her father and step-mother, Cecilia Magee, of Southampton. Her brother, Duncan, joined them shortly after. She graduated from Southampton High School in 1925 and X-Ray technician school in Manhattan in 1928. Her first job was with Bendinen Schlesinger.

She married James A. Burke of New York City in 1931 and they settled in Woodside, NY, spending most summer vacations in Noyac. After her husband died in 1965, Mrs. Burke, having purchased a home in Pompano Beach, Fla., enrolled in Florida Atlantic University, graduating with an AS degree in nursing. She returned to Noyac and worked as a RN in Southampton Hospital. Mrs. Burke was an avid bird watcher and animal lover. Her home was never without a pet, usually more than one. She belonged to the Bridgehampton Bridge Club and played weekly contract bridge until a few months before she died. She was also a retired member of the Southampton Garden Club, having been an active member for years.

Mrs. Burke is survived by her four children, Jean Burke of North Haven, James Burke of Florida, John Burke of California and Judith Schiavoni of Sag Harbor; ten grandchildren and eight great-grandchildren. She requested cremation and that there be no showing nor memorial service of any kind. Her family is honoring her wishes. The family requests that memorial donations be made to the Sag Harbor Ambulance Corps, PO Box 2725, Sag Harbor, NY 11963.


Phyllis Wright Parash

Phyllis Wright Parash, a longtime resident of Southampton and more recently of Sag Harbor, died on Sunday, September 7, at the Southampton Hospital, of complications from myelofibrosis and acute leukemia. She was pre-deceased by her husband, Paul Parash, in February of this year.

Born in Rocky Mount, North Carolina, on September 3, 1947, Phyllis was the daughter of Dr. and Mrs. Kenneth B. Wright.  The Wright family moved to Southampton in 1950 and Phyllis attended Southampton Schools.  After high school, Phyllis married Douglas Goodale and lived with him in New York City, where she gave birth to her son, Brian Kenneth Goodale. 

Phyllis worked in New York for an architectural firm, John Carl Warnecke, and a law firm, Kramer Levin, before returning to Southampton in the mid 1970s to become the co-owner/manager of East End Computers with her son Brian. Consulting privately with clients in the computer and real estate fields, in the 1980s, Phyllis became one of the first computer-savvy individuals on the East End; her Hampton Road store was frequented by many leading prominent east end writers who were just beginning to become computer literate, including Craig Claiborne, Linda Bird Francke, Joseph Heller, Joe Pintauro and others, with whom she developed close friendships.

In 1997, she married Paul Parash, the co-owner of Sip-n-Soda in Southampton After selling her business, Phyllis worked for the Southampton Association as well as other private clients. She and Paul moved to Sag Harbor, where they were well known for hosting soirees attended by their wide circle of friends at the Madison Street home she loved. According to her sister Elizabeth, “Phyllis was the best cook and hostess I’ve ever known.”  She attracted people because of her infectious enthusiasm for life, and will be remembered for her love of her large and close family, her loyal friendship, her passion for music and singing, and for her fierce determination and indomitable spirit.  At the age of 60, Phyllis executed a perfect cartwheel on the beach at the celebration of her granddaughter’s second birthday. She also loved warm climates and owned a beachfront home in San Pancho, Mexico, where she and many Southampton friends enjoyed vacations.

Avid readers, Phyllis and Paul were members of both a play-reading group and a book club.  Phyllis is survived by her son, Brian Goodale and his wife Helen, three step-sons, Paul, Nicholas and Mark Parash; six brothers and sisters, Elizabeth Wright, Penny Wright, Dorothy Reilly, Kenny Wright, and Douglas Wright, and a half-sister, Suzanne Klein; two sisters-in-law, Megan Christian Wright and Robin Koral Wright; three brothers-in-law, Wayne Grothe, David Beier, and Michael Reilly; and three granddaughters, Lindsay Siefert, Taylor Goodale and Fionnuala Goodale.  Also among her survivors are her nieces and nephews, Sarah and Colin Reilly, Spencer, Lianna and Georgia Wright, Hope and Alex Reese, Genna and Ellis Beier, Bella Wright and Grady Klein.

Visitation will be held at the O’Connell Funeral Home between 2 and 4 p.m. and 7 and 9 p.m. on Thursday, September 11.  A private memorial service will be held at a later date.  In lieu of flowers, the family would appreciate donations to The Phyllis Wright Parash Fund, John Jermain Library, 201 Main Street, Sag Harbor, New York 11963.


Ethel Bookstaver Charach

Ethel Bookstaver Charach, 100, of Patchogue, died on August 30, 2008. Born and raised in Sag Harbor, where she was known as “Bookie”, Mrs. Charach graduated Pierson High School. At the time of last years’ 100th Anniversary of Pierson, she was recognized as the school’s oldest living alumnus.

She was also a graduate of Hunter College. She moved to Patchogue in 1940 where she was a long time member of Temple Beth El of Patchogue and a founding member of the Patchogue Chapter of Hadassah. For many years she volunteered at Brookhaven Memorial Hospital.

Mrs. Charach is survived by her son Benjamin “Jeff” and his wife Carole of Bayport, as well as her two grandsons, Craig and Adam. She was predeceased by her husband Charles in 1978.

Friends and relatives gathered on Tuesday, September 2, at Bayport–Blue Point Funeral Home, where a religious service was celebrated with Rabbi Joel Levinson officiating. Interment followed in Patchogue Hebrew Cemetery.

The family asks that memorial donations be made to Brookhaven Hospice, 105 West Main Street, Patchogue, NY 11772 or Temple Beth El 45 Oak Street, Patchogue, NY 11772.


Frank LoPinto

Frank LoPinto, 82, of Emerald Isle, North Carolina, passed away Friday, September 5, 2008 at Pitt Memorial Hospital in Greenville, N.C.

Graveside funeral services will be held 11 a.m. Saturday, September 13, at Seaside Memorial Park, Swansboro, N.C., with Father Donald Baribeau of St. Milred RC Church, Swansboro, N.C., officiating. 

Mr. LoPinto retired after 50 years in the fashion industry on 7th Avenue in New York City. He also served in the U.S. Navy during WWII.

Mr. LoPinto is preceded in death by his wife of 58 years, Rose M. LoPinto.

Survivors include his son, Dr. Joseph F. LoPinto and wife, Gail of Sag Harbor; daughter, Jodie L. Folk and her husband, Tom of Fairfax, Va.; four grandchildren; two sisters, Sylvia Adamo of Pennsylvania, and Vinnie Oskapinski of Arizona.

The family will receive friends Friday evening from 6 to 8 p.m. at Jones Funeral Home, Swansboro Chapel.

Flowers are welcome or memorials may be made to the charity of ones choice, in honor of Mr. LoPinto.

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